There is a fine line between providing information and inspiration about healthy and eco-friendly choices, and becoming what I like to call a Mummy Guilter.
That is something I do not want to be.
So for the record, let me say this.
There are lots of ways to be a good parent.
There are lots of ways to make a difference in the world.
No-one will be able to do all of them.
So if you just can’t live without your (gasp!) shop bought, pre-wash stain remover, I am not here to judge you.
I have a somewhat weird passion for making my own cleaning products. Extra weird when you know I don’t really like to clean. I’m also passionate about trying to live a life that’s more in tune with the Earth’s limits than we are used to doing.
But that doesn’t mean I do everything I could, or should, to make that happen. I have a lot of room for improvement, in all areas of my life.
For instance, I sometimes yell at my kids. More often than I’d like you to know.
And, I shop at the supermarket virtually every week.
And, all my kids have eaten at McDonalds. Yes, even my three year old.
And, I used to like to watch Days of Our Lives when I could (before it was cancelled in Australia). I can tell you most of the basic storylines back about twenty-five years!
And, I am planning to use a LOT of fossil fuels flying my whole family overseas (again!) next year. And then driving around the United States for several months.
And, my kids go to a Steiner school, which means I am part of the problem of money leaving the public school system.
And, my house is usually a mess.
And, most of my clothes were made in third world countries.
And, I still have too much stuff. And so do my kids.
And, sometimes I let my kids watch “too much” television.
And, sometimes I judge other people snarkily in my head. Sheesh.
And I start sentences with And, and use commas to indicate a pregnant pause.
So now you know (a few of) my guilty secrets.
The fact is, Good mothers smoke while pregnant. So while I want Sustainable Suburbia to be a place that inspires you to make changes in your life, and to give you information to make that easier, I do not want you to think I am better than you, or that I think I am better than you. If you are inspired to make some non-toxic pre-wash stain remover, that’s great. If you sign up to learn more, even better! If you are doing the Skipping the Supermarket Challenge, fantastic. But if you have other priorities, that’s fine. It’s not my business to tell you how to run your life.
I am here to give you information and inspiration, and hopefully to learn from you in turn. That’s it.
What about you – do you ever find some of your favourite blogs can sometimes leave you feeling inadequate or overwhelmed? Do you think the line between guilt tripping and inspiration is clear or is it a movable feast, depending how you are feeling as a reader?